My dad once chided me, âOkay, so you asked God for a mango, but He gave you a banana. So what? Are they not both fruits?â This is my earliest memory of my 'eitherâ¦orâ¦' faith journey with our heavenly father. âWhy kill yourself over 'either' when there is always 'or'?â reasoned Fr. Mathew . Indeed, I havenât died of scurvy.